In this call you’ll hear Darin explain how he gets results like this from his clients (regardless of their age).  He also talks about his favorite 2 exercises, how to use your mind to maximize your results, and some motivation tricks for staying on track. You can listen to this seminar for a limited time by clicking here.

Jim: You personally have shifted the way that you eat; the way that you look at things; how do you keep yourself motivated and how do others create motivation for fat loss?

Holly:    This is a great question and it’s so funny that you ask me this because I just held a coaching call last night for my Fit Yummy Mummies.  It was all about motivation because a lot of women are like “Ah how do I keep this motivation?  I’m so excited.  I don’t want it to go away.”
For them, I mentioned four strategies that they need to do up front right away when they begin to help their motivation; keep them going strong.  The number one step is absolutely goal setting.  You have to know what you want and most importantly why you want it.  Then of course put your goals in a place where you can see them on a daily basis so you keep focused.

The second strategy is daily affirmations.  Watch your . . . putting positive phrases and words in front of you and watching your self talk.  Women are notorious for beating themselves up and filling their minds with negative things.  It’s important to switch that around to a more positive outlook.

The third strategy is creating a vision board which is taking the goal setting to another step.  It’s actually a collage of your goals.  It’s a very fun project, but it really puts meaning into what you’re doing.  I told the ladies “Bring the belief you have in yourself to life by creating a vision board.”

Of course, recruit assistance and with my community – my Fit Yummy Mummy club – it’s all about staying connected and blogging and ask for help when you need it.  Because they have access to each and every one of the members, they can also read through the successes of others and feel inspired to be able to do the same.  Staying connected is very important.

For me to stay motivated, like I shared with them the healthy habits that I practice day in and day out are just that. They’re habits for me at this point because I’ve been practicing them for so long.  It just becomes something that I do.  I don’t really think twice about it.  Of course we associate habits with brushing your teeth.  You don’t think about it.  But unlike the mindless monotony of this habit, there are so many immediate rewards attached to the healthy habits of eating right and exercising.  I absolutely look forward to eating my supportive meals and I crave my workouts.

Yes, I’m human.  I have days where I have to talk myself into it; however, I stay motivated because I remind myself of how good I will soon feel.  I do it also by considering from the inside out.  I always focus on the positive outcomes physically and emotionally.

First and foremost my energy levels – I love the energy I get from my workouts and from my meals.  A lot of clients that I work with — one of their major obstacles is later in the afternoon when they feel they want to take a nap or they’re craving those high sugar processed carbs to give them a quick pick me up.
When if you – this is the coolest thing I’ve noticed since I’ve lived this healthy lifestyle is that I don’t have those any more.  Yes, my exercise plays a role in it, but it’s also because I’m choosing to eat different types of foods.  I don’t get that drop in energy in the second half of the day.  I’m more productive the second half of the day.

I also love how empowered I feel after I get my workout in.  It helps me to make better choices for the rest of the day.  I love how my mood has improved.  I love how I’m less stressed.  Improved mood and reduction in stress together these two outcomes are what allow me to truly enjoy the time I spend with my husband and my son.  That improves the quality of my relationships.  Physically it feels good to feel lean and toned.  Your posture changes.  You feel strong from the inside out.  This is what truly motivates me.

Jim:    That’s my favorite part of any of these calls is because you’re so congruent in the way that you’re saying it.  So many people are surrounded by people that maybe don’t have the health or body that they want and so they’re constantly hearing those beliefs and those perceptions.  To hear you describe it so congruently, we know you live it.  It’s so great for you to be explicit about it.

One of the things I’d like to point out is that because you didn’t bring out the physicality of it until the end.  Sometimes people go into it and they’re just focused on the weight.  They are focused on the size clothes.  They wonder why they can’t maintain the motivation.  The things you just described that really kind of jazz you up continuously are so much deeper than that it sounds like.

Holly:     That’s where the lasting power is.  People are like “How do you stay motivated?  Where do you get it from?”  This is where it is.  You can have this too.

Jim:    It sounds like it depends on how you look at it.  That goes hand in hand with what you started off with – those four steps.  That makes a lot of sense.  Again, anyone who is looking to jump into something and really get going with something, start by right off the bat doing something different.  Re-describe why you want to do it, not just the size clothes or the weight loss, but the emotional reasons; the energy levels and the things that are really going to affect the quality of your life.

Tom really put on a master class. He reveals which exercises are the best for boosting up your metabolism, his 10 rules for nutrition that keeps you lean, and the most common limiting beliefs that people have when it comes to transforming their bodies. This call is so good, that I’m going to keep the replay up througout the weekend for free.  You can listen to this amazing seminar for a limited time by clicking here.

Jim: Speaking of goals, can you talk a little about performance and outcome goals?
Vince: That’s a great question.  Performance and outcome goals – I guess one’s a good way to set goals and one’s a bad way to set goals.  Outcome goals are something you can’t control.  These are the wrong goals to set.
An outcome goal is saying that I want to – and I’ll clarify all this in a second – an outcome goal is saying I want to lose 100 pounds.  Well, you can’t control if you’re going to lose 100 pounds.   You can control the performance goals that are going to contribute to that outcome goal, but you can’t actually predict the outcome.
It’s kind of like a 100 meter sprinter.  He might want to run . . . an Olympic sprinter might want to run sub 10 seconds, but he can’t control the outcome of running 10 seconds.  What he can control is how hard he pumps his arms; how fast he comes out of the gate; how he accelerates at the 30 meter mark.
What I’m trying to say is that yes, you should have some sort of outcome goal — I want to lose 100 pounds, but that shouldn’t be where it stops.  You should progress your day to day focus to revolve around performance goals, things that you can control. So let’s make this practical.  For somebody who wants to lose some body fat, a good performance goal would be to wake up at 6:00 in the morning instead of 7:00, because waking up an hour earlier is going to allow your metabolism to work an extra hour in the day.  Multiple that by seven days in a week, and that’s 7 hours times 52 weeks — 7 x 50 = 350 extra hours in a year that your metabolism is going to be burning.
Focusing on things that you can control like writing out a grocery list so knowing that you’re going to put enough chicken in your grocery cart.  You’re going to get enough oatmeal.  You’re not going to put this in your grocery cart.  You’re going to make sure you get enough vegetables.  Those are things that you can control.
Writing out your day planner – I’ve got a buddy living at my place right now.  He’s a physician.  He has this insane schedule.  He works one day on; he’s on call one day; he’s off another day.  He’s asked me for all this workout advice.  I’ve been giving him workout advice.  Every time I see him, he looks the same.  I’m like, “What’s the problem here?”  I realize that he doesn’t have a schedule.  He’s focusing on the wrong thing.  I said, “What you need to do is get your planner and I need you to schedule in all the days you’re going to work out for the next month.  Let’s worry about that.”  He’s like, “Oh man, that’s what I need to do. I have to figure out what days I can even work out on.” Who cares about reps and sets until you have a plan and know when you’re going to hit the gym?  Focus on things you can control and then the outcome will take care of itself.

Jim:    That is profound.  That is really great.  I think that’s one of those common mistakes that people make.  They’re so focused on the outcome that they forget to focus on the details of it all.   That is profound knowledge. Another one – and again, these are things in the No Nonsense guide.  It really is no nonsense.  I think that’s the absolutely perfect title because in an industry where there’s a bunch of nonsense – well, the nonsense is that there’s so many different systems and programs and everything else.  I think what Vince has done with his book is really boiled it all down to the absolute core things.

If you’d like to learn more about Vince’s No Nonsense Muscle Building program, click here.

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